My daughter had an abortion without my knowledge in her early 20's. I did know something was strange and our relationship was not very close nor open. I can relate to the phrase "I often wonder if there was something I could have done to help her." Communication was so difficult at that time. Reasoning and calmness were gone. I would ask God for help but no matter what I did or did not do or say seemed to make a difference. I definitely was at my wits end and feeling very hopeless as to what was going on.
My daughter eventually told me and I was angry, disappointed and became sad very sad. This would have been her second pregnancy. She did have one daughter already and I am so glad she did not abort the first child. My daughter is still unmarried and still has difficulty having positive healthy relationships. She did say that knowing Jesus Christ has helped with forgiveness and she is healing- gratefully- a work in progress. She works regularly and is a wonderful Mother to her daughter.
I am grateful for the difference Christ does make if I am patient and am loving.
The Pregnancy Care Center in our town had a Memorial of Jesus looking lovingly at a mother with child in our nearby cemetery for unborn children lost to either miscarriage or abortion. I placed a memorial there for my grandbaby, Michael. I have not told my daughter, yet. I will lovingly.