I was 23 years old...


I was 23 years old. I never thought this is how I would end up.  I had dreams of living in New York and being successful.  I never even imagined that I would get pregnant by someone I was merely dating and be left.


It was in September.  I was late.  Everything felt fine, just vaguely off.  I took two tests and realized.  As I called the father, he had no reaction.  He said, "Ok."  He didn't ask how I was, what I was going to do, or what part he played.  The Saturday came and I went to the clinic.  It was a gritty office with rickety elevators and a cold Russian staff.


It was my turn. I went in.  I saw the ultrasound.  That's when I realized that it was real.  This was a child. This was growing inside of me and it wasn't such an abstraction.  I was very early in term and had to get a shot.


The next week was the worst week of my life.  I couldn't look at children. I couldn't look at pregnant women.  My eyes were glazed over at all times and I couldn't focus.  The pain was excruciating.


I don't have regrets in life, but this event made me question myself and the way I was living.  I was reckless and I got punished for it.  It has now been nine months.  It's strange to think that right now my life would be completely different.  I would have a child, an infant, a baby. Ultimately I think I made the right decision, but I will always wonder.